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09-18-2002, 07:59 AM #1Web Hosting Master
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girlfriend situation
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ok anyhow i known this dude lets call his name john and say we been really cool friends for a while now.
so i decided to go cruising with him and this girl he was drop dead like in love with we'll call her karen.
ok so anyhow i ride up there in karens car she is really attractive probably and 8-10 anyhow it was fun cruising around.
i told her that i really liked her and was currious about the movies with her and she said you mean you like me? i said yea she said i feel the same i thought you hated me.
so anyhow had the hardpart out of the way or so i thought.
you remember the guy? (john) was'nt thinking clearly well he's like in love with this girl and he's my friend and i met her with him lol.
ok so story goes on she ready to tell john she don't like him and wants get more serious with me and i'm like NO dont you'll ruin my friendship with him etc....
i said stuff like bros> ho's lol
anyhow she was so upset i changed my mind but hey did'nt know what else to do.
so anyhow we still talk a little and i finally convinced her to kinda go out with john and he turns like phsyco on her saying he loves her and on the phone 24/7 constantly and that he's obsessed with her so she says stay away so anyhow that brings us to this past weekend.
i was riding around with another buddy of mine and i was like yo i wanna go drive karens car.
he's like ok cool call her up anyhow i call her she said ya come by my house so i did and we go cruising (me driving lol) anyhow we hang out a big me , my buddy brett, and her karen.
so we get ready to leave brett is like dude she is ****ing hot man hook me up i'm like nah i'm interested in her man
anyhow thats all he talks about for a while so that tells ya a little.
she is ready to get more serious for sure she was so mad when i decided against getting more seroius so i know she wants to.
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so question is should i get more serious now that things between (john and karen ) have split?
and she's goin out to movie or cruisin with my friday already since her cars in shop
let me know what you think.
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09-18-2002, 08:43 AM #2Web Hosting Master
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No, don't do it.
Not enough time has passed for either John or Karen to think rationally about the posibility of a relationship between you and Karen.
She could just be using you for as number of reasons:
To distance her realationship with him.
To make him jealous.
To prove that she can 'have' whoever she wants.
To prove she can do whatever she wants.
To prove she can do better than him.
John, of course sounds like the clingy insecure type, and going out with someone he had feelings for might cause him to act very irrational.
Clingy people are always hard to shake because they put more value in a relationship than there is to start with, and then they get mad the the other person hasn't grown to 'love' them as much as they think they 'love' the other.
They can't just have a freindship with women, because they put women on a higher level than themsleves. Then they go nuts trying to control the situation.
Myself, I would stay away from both of them.
You have to have a few more mature friends than those two. Who cares how hot she is? Fire is hot too, and I don't see you jumping into the fire and not getting burned.DANG DANG! DANG!!™
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09-18-2002, 08:55 AM #3Web Hosting Master
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well see they were'nt never really dating or anything just talking about getting more serious when he scared her away and i pushed her to date him so that he'd be happy when she liked me but did'nt wanna friendship.
anyhow i'm all ears
anyone else?
/edit not like she's just trying to get anyone she can i hav'nt even talked to her about it and she liked me before any of the talking with john.
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09-18-2002, 08:56 AM #4Web Hosting Master
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Personally, and I am speaking from personal experiance. STAY AWAY...
Not good idea. If you and Karen really are meant for each other than you can wait for some time to pass and things to happen first.
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09-18-2002, 09:08 AM #5Registered User
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Don't do it , it will ruin your friendship, ive seen it happen too many times
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09-18-2002, 09:14 AM #6Web Hosting Master
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Heck! Go for it! I know what that situation is like, it'll work out.
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09-18-2002, 09:22 AM #8Web Hosting Master
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Go for it.
I got obsessed with this girl once and i got into loads of trouble and it cost me over 1 thousand pounds.Professor of crime at St Andrews university.
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Are you and John still pretty good friends??
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09-18-2002, 09:38 AM #10Junior Guru
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Hey zac,
Could i get my friends at loveforum.net to reply to your question. I think he could give you a valuable answer. For me, i am not that good ..i fear i give the wrong and not good answer. So, i would pass your questions to my friends.
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09-18-2002, 09:40 AM #11WHT Addict
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I am also going for a movie.
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09-18-2002, 01:30 PM #12Junior Guru
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Why not tell John your interested in the girl, and see what he says about you and her hooking up.
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09-18-2002, 01:44 PM #13Web Host :)
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Ummm seriously I have no clue how old you are but I got over being jealous of someone getting with some girl I could not get with.. I would say if you are over 17 go for it.. if your 17 or younger dont bother because guys are a little emotional at that age..
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09-18-2002, 04:52 PM #14Web Hosting Master
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Originally posted by JonB
Are you and John still pretty good friends??
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09-18-2002, 04:53 PM #15Web Hosting Master
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Originally posted by kaz
Hey zac,
Could i get my friends at loveforum.net to reply to your question. I think he could give you a valuable answer. For me, i am not that good ..i fear i give the wrong and not good answer. So, i would pass your questions to my friends.
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09-18-2002, 04:54 PM #16Web Hosting Master
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Originally posted by MatrixRS
Why not tell John your interested in the girl, and see what he says about you and her hooking up.
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09-18-2002, 05:23 PM #17Junior Guru
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I wouldnt do it..
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09-18-2002, 05:40 PM #18Web Hosting Master
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Originally posted by peteny
I wouldnt do it..
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09-18-2002, 06:08 PM #19Web Hosting Guru
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They say that gf/bf come and go in your life but a good friend is there forever. Is she worth losing whatever kind of friendship you might have? What will you do if he goes postal on you? I've always made a point of not dating my friends toss aways and vice versa, it's just not worth it.
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I have been there and honestly suggest you keep away if you can, as the more complicated a relationship gets, the harder things can be, and you could end up really badly off in a few months time. It's just not worth it, there's plenty of fish in the sea, look for another whilst you can, because the deeper you get pulled into this one, the more it plays on your emotions, and the harder it is to cope with breaking up if it happens. And you don't just stand to potentially lose the girl, but also your friend, and friendship is something you should never let slip if you can possibly help it.
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09-18-2002, 06:32 PM #21Web Hosting Master
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k i'll probably just stay friends then and still take her cruising and movies etc... but as nothing more then friends
thanks for advice
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If it's meant to be, it's meant to be... no need to rush things. It might be John will lose interest and go off looking elsewhere leaving you and Karen free to do what you want. Just go with the flow and see what happens
If nothing does happen, then at least you haven't messed up your life by getting into a complicated relationship that's going to wreck your friendship with at least one person.
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09-18-2002, 06:44 PM #23Web Hosting Master
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Originally posted by benoire
If it's meant to be, it's meant to be... no need to rush things. It might be John will lose interest and go off looking elsewhere leaving you and Karen free to do what you want. Just go with the flow and see what happens
If nothing does happen, then at least you haven't messed up your life by getting into a complicated relationship that's going to wreck your friendship with at least one person.
anywho thanks for advice
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09-18-2002, 07:16 PM #24Web Hosting Master
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I'd ask john straight out if he has a problem with it. Of course he'll feel wierd, but he may think she's some psycho now.
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09-18-2002, 11:41 PM #25Web Hosting Master
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nah i see now that i should stay friends that way i dont lose any friends in the end where may end up losing both if asked her
thanks everyone