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01-03-2007, 05:48 PM #26Invented the Internet
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I pray to God she doesn't get custody of those kids. You and her both need some serious counseling as neither one of you are working on all gears. She's obviously totally out of her skull and shouldn't even have unsupervised visits with her kids...and you are totally off your rocker thinking that she is someone that should have custody of her kids.
Here's the scoop..."rescuing" her gives you a sick sense of self-worth. Get some counseling, get some self-esteem and do those kids a favor and tell her she needs to let someone else give them a stable life. Obviously, you two aren't going to be able to do it.
Being in a relationship isn't about constantly picking someone out of the gutter and trying to make them happy and healthy. That's called DYSFUNCTION.
Again, I hope those kids don't get within 100 ft of her unless its under stable adult supervision. Her wanting those kids and you wanting her to have those kids is just plain SELFISH.
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01-03-2007, 05:52 PM #27Junior Guru
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I agree with AH-Tina
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01-03-2007, 06:40 PM #28Web Hosting Master
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good post Tina, This gal is definately nuts.
I say you go out with her anyway it could be good practice for your next love Lauren.Technical Advisor for new A&E Series The Killing Season
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01-03-2007, 07:09 PM #29Web Hosting Master
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The girl sounds like she has some major issues, perhaps starting with bipolar disorder... she needs to get her mental issues in check before she can care for *her* children, and you ought to distance yourself from the situation because it's not a good one, nor is it a healthy one for you to be involving yourself in.
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01-03-2007, 07:43 PM #30Web Hosting Master
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01-03-2007, 11:16 PM #32Web Hosting Master
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Just trying to play matchmaker in case this does not work out
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01-04-2007, 01:19 AM #33Web Hosting Master
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Wait.. did I read correctly that you haven't even been on a date with her?
You love her but have not been on a date with her?
You've been hanging around with her for 8 months, and love her but haven't been on a date with her?
You want to fight for custody, love her and been hanging around with her for only 8 months but haven't been on a date with her?
She knows you love her, and want to marry her, care about her for 8 months, but you haven't been out on a date with her?
And she is the one under observation????!!!!1111110
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01-04-2007, 01:29 AM #34Registered User
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Kerry, go play some old school Age of Kings and forget about this girl.
She isn't worth it. Nobody really is.
I got involved in something similar (nothing this bad) and in the end it just isn't worth it at all. Find somebody else.
I know you won't listen - I didn't either. But really, if theres some sense in you at least give it some thought.0
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01-04-2007, 04:44 AM #35Junior Guru
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Its funny how almost all of us have been in a similar situation.
I feel so dumb everytime i think of it, but it was a lesson life taught me that I dont regret learning.
Kerry will be looking back one day just like us and telling someone else the same.
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01-05-2007, 08:33 AM #36Web Hosting Master
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Originally Posted by stealthdevil
I pray to God she doesn't get custody of those kids. You and her both need some serious counseling as neither one of you are working on all gears. She's obviously totally out of her skull and shouldn't even have unsupervised visits with her kids...and you are totally off your rocker thinking that she is someone that should have custody of her kids.
Being in a relationship isn't about constantly picking someone out of the gutter and trying to make them happy and healthy. That's called DYSFUNCTION.
Again, I hope those kids don't get within 100 ft of her unless its under stable adult supervision. Her wanting those kids and you wanting her to have those kids is just plain SELFISH.
The girl sounds like she has some major issues, perhaps starting with bipolar disorder... she needs to get her mental issues in check before she can care for *her* children, and you ought to distance yourself from the situation because it's not a good one, nor is it a healthy one for you to be involving yourself in.Kerry Jones0
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01-05-2007, 10:36 AM #37Invented the Internet
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Originally Posted by Kerry Jones
Originally Posted by Kerry Jones
Originally Posted by Kerry Jones
Originally Posted by Kerry Jones
Originally Posted by Kerry Jones
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01-05-2007, 10:53 AM #38Web Hosting Master
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No, its actually very simple. You guys have extremely low self-esteem and feed off each other.
You're rationalizing for her. She willfully abused a substance and the end result was that she had a complete meltdown. Has she learned from this experience? That's not even a valid question. You don't learn from things like that...you know better ahead of time. This is one of the main reasons why she should NEVER get these kids.
It seems as though you portray us as people who take drugs. Mind you, I spent the last 3 years raising a niece and taking care of those kids. I gave them the proper breakfast, lunch, dinner, etc. This includes playing games with them and paying attention to them all day long.Kerry Jones0
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01-05-2007, 11:03 AM #39Invented the Internet
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Originally Posted by Kerry Jones
Look, you are NOT their mother. You are NOT the person that should be in charge of making sure their mother acts like she's supposed to. What you're saying is "if she had only listened to me"....a good mother doesn't need ANYONE to tell her how to properly care for her kids.
You also say that YOU'VE been raising 3 kids and YOU gave them proper food and YOU played games. Go to the judge and tell him that. You know why? Because he'll say "Well, YOU'RE not the one trying to get custody of these kids, so you could have raised 100 kids in the past...but that's totally irrelevant." You're not their mother and its going to take longer than a few months for her to get her head right.
Besides that, the fact that you can't see why their mother isn't stable enough to have those kids says a lot about your stability.
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01-05-2007, 11:21 AM #40Web Hosting Master
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Originally Posted by AH-Tina
That is a huge amount of responsibility that you are suggesting you wish to take on. Young children are hard work. Live life a little first before getting 'bogged down' (for lack of a better term) with kids.Matthew Russell | Namecheap
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01-05-2007, 11:24 AM #41Web Hosting Master
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I don't think either one of you are drug abusers. I never said that. You said something about her abusing caffeine pills and not having the good sense to go to bed at a decent hour. Childish kid stuff that is indicative of someone who is pretty self-centered and not acting in the best interest of her kids.
Besides that, the fact that you can't see why their mother isn't stable enough to have those kids says a lot about your stability.
Look, you are NOT their mother. You are NOT the person that should be in charge of making sure their mother acts like she's supposed to. What you're saying is "if she had only listened to me"....a good mother doesn't need ANYONE to tell her how to properly care for her kids.
You also say that YOU'VE been raising 3 kids and YOU gave them proper food and YOU played games. Go to the judge and tell him that. You know why? Because he'll say "Well, YOU'RE not the one trying to get custody of these kids, so you could have raised 100 kids in the past...but that's totally irrelevant." You're not their mother and its going to take longer than a few months for her to get her head right.Kerry Jones0
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01-05-2007, 11:25 AM #42Dennis Johnson
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