What specifications are you looking for? Have you considered going with a VPS server? I am not sure that getting a managed server would be the best bet, but you can try getting an unmanaged and going with a third-party management group like PSM for only $30/month.
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We get about 3k unique a day but I am looking to bump that up A LOT. By manage we want to do cpanel ftp and stuff like that ourselves. But for security and all the really technical stuff they can manage that.
Overall I am just looking for a server that will let my site have alot of incoming traffic with out any down time.
I've checked the companies I always recommend, but for that price it's tough. The cheapest solution LunarPages has is a Celeron for $99 a month, but with the extras you need it would get more expensive. Quality isn't cheap.
I'll subscribe to this to read all the opinions. It could become a really nice thread.