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    Unhappy Please make sure who you are meeting online is that person (Girl Killed)

    GIRL MURDERED by man she first met up online on MYSPACE !!!
    Taylor Behl,a student from Virginia, has been found murdered. Her body turned up yesterday in a shallow grave and was confirmed to be that of Taylor Behl.The prime suspect, Ben Fawley claims to be an amateur photographer and is being held by authorities. She has a MySpace page and to see the comments from people while she was missing right up to finding the body is pretty sad and intense.Keep in mind that there are over 30 million people on this network so the odds are pretty good that you'll interact with some psychos and possibly some predators along the way(male or female). Just be careful and use common sense especially if you are female. I know 1st hand the amount of e-mails that women get every single day, half from guys posing as amateur photographers.
    The romantic relationship between Taylor and Ben started online on Myspace.
    Check out her My Space profile, which is still up and all the comments her friends have been leaving her from the day she disappeared up until today.

    www.myspace.com/doowop



    Here is the story on the News:
    http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,171446,00.html
    http://www.crimelibrary.com/criminal...or_behl/3.html
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    You've got to wonder who to blame when a teenage girl meets someone online. There's nothing wrong with online meetups, but if at all they should be somewhere public..

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    Originally posted by DanX
    You've got to wonder who to blame when a teenage girl meets someone online. There's nothing wrong with online meetups, but if at all they should be somewhere public..
    People just have to be more careful they might be talking to these people online for a year or what ever, but that does not mean you really know that person. There are ways to protect your self, but this is really sad to see happen .

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    Sad Indeed.

    May her soul rest in peace!!!
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    Yeah, you really don't know someone online, no matter how long you talk to them.

    My brother did meet his wife online. They were talking on AOL, and they met up at a public place. Things went well and now it's a decade later!

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    It's a shame . It just proves you really do have to be careful. May she rest in peace.
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    the odds are pretty good that you'll interact with some psychos and possibly some predators
    True. It is a sad fact, the very open nature of these websites and the anonymity of the members makes for a portal through which people who want to cause trouble, can cause trouble.
    No real method of identification is used (I assume) and this means that you past history can be easily shrouded from the people that person meets online.
    Is it not an obligation on the part of the human race to always try and make sure that the highest level of identification can be assumed from those that use the website as a portal through which to seduct/prey on people?
    I think so, I really think methods of ID/past history need to be taken into consideration more carefully.
    Unfortunately, security and freedom are opposites and must be balanced, I don't think we yet have that balance.

    Yeah, you really don't know someone online, no matter how long you talk to them
    Another truth. Due to all the reasons stated above it just is't safe to assume that the person you are contacting is:

    • Consistently the same person
    • Mentally similar


    Luckily, i'm sure that most of the relationships that have been fueled by this website have been successfull and have brought alot to the individuals but this can't always be the way.

    You've got to wonder who to blame when a teenage girl meets someone online. There's nothing wrong with online meetups, but if at all they should be somewhere public
    Yeah, absolutely, it seems a bit irresponsible to just meet up in a private location with a total stranger.

    As the saying goes -
    "Never trust your Aunt and she'll never let you down"

    I have many friends on the internet but although I have spoken to many of them for years I still never give out personal information. A good friend will be fine and understand this and should themselves keep information from you.

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    If you want to see it on the news tonight it is going to be on Dateline NBC.

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    Re: Please make sure who you are meeting online is that person (Girl Killed)

    I don't quite understand the warning in the thread title. If it is true that they met through myspace (how does anyone know that? Have a reference somewhere?), how is the warning "make sure the person you meet is that person" applicable? He wasn't posing as anyone else, and having read through parts of three of his own blogs (as well as postings by her where she talks about him and where they exchange comments in conversation) I wouldn't say he was hiding much about who he his or about his past.

    The relationship between the two of them was for several weeks or months, and they have several mutual friends or acquaintances, so whether they did first met online or not isn't really relevant. They could just have easily met any other way and have exactly the same thing happen.

    By the way, Fawley -- so far at least -- is not being held for her murder. The police are terming him a "person of interest;" he was arrested for possession of child pornography found on at least one of the computers that were confiscated from his home in a search for evidence for the murder investigation. His explanation so far for that is that the computer in question was left behind by a former roommate.

    By no means am I saying he didn't kill Taylor Behl, or that he did... just pointing out that this situation is more complicated than "look what might happen when you meet someone online."

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    Just passing the information a long that is all . Though it is to tell people if you meet someone online or offline be careful.

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    ive met more weirdos at the car wash than online
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    Originally posted by Geni-Site.com
    ive met more weirdos at the car wash than online
    True as this may be, it only takes meeting that one weirdo one time online or not that could lead to your death.
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    Originally posted by Torith
    People just have to be more careful they might be talking to these people online for a year or what ever, but that does not mean you really know that person. There are ways to protect your self, but this is really sad to see happen .

    This reminds me of a thread on here where the OP was full on in favor of meeting people you have only known online and was totaly convinced you could get to know them their personalitys and habits just from the text in posts, I disagreed and spoke about this sort of thing happening but to a man each and every one of the posters in the thread were equaly as confident that no one could pull the wool over their eyes.

    Well as i said in that thread it is a dangerous thing the internet you can be whatever you want to be and worse make others think your something your not get them to trust you (how many times do we see 'I paid so and so and he has run off with the money but he was my friend') this time he ran off with something far more precious than money,Sometimes it takes an incident like this to bring people to their senses.


    I hope the girl rests in peace and her family are left alone to grieve for her........

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    Looks like this guy was seriously into adult material.
    http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll...tem=6550411571

    Scary what you find when searching.
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    Another quote from his site -

    The time spent with “T” was a lot of fun, and I will treasure that as something very special. I will also harbor the hope that I will get the chance to go there again with her, though I am almost certain that will never be. If I do get that chance again I do have something in mind that I would like to see if she enjoys.

    T = Taylor?
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    Apologies. This is my last post on the matter for the moment but look at this!
    http://home.comcast.net/~perrytg/bf.bs/house.gif

    Scary!
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    I still think online is a great way to meet people. Online is just like offline but with online you can talk to people from far away. Though this has changed my view a tad bit on meeting people. Though I am sure people like Vito and gang are good people. They have meet up with other members of WHT.



    Originally posted by phill2003
    This reminds me of a thread on here where the OP was full on in favor of meeting people you have only known online and was totaly convinced you could get to know them their personalitys and habits just from the text in posts, I disagreed and spoke about this sort of thing happening but to a man each and every one of the posters in the thread were equaly as confident that no one could pull the wool over their eyes.

    Well as i said in that thread it is a dangerous thing the internet you can be whatever you want to be and worse make others think your something your not get them to trust you (how many times do we see 'I paid so and so and he has run off with the money but he was my friend') this time he ran off with something far more precious than money,Sometimes it takes an incident like this to bring people to their senses.


    I hope the girl rests in peace and her family are left alone to grieve for her........

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    Torith, do you have a link for where you heard that they met through myspace? Like I said, I don't remember having read that, and have seen plenty of references to them having local friends and acquaintances in common that they may have met through.

    It always bothers me that the media likes to turn so many stories into "online danger" scenarios... and in this case I haven't seen any evidence that this was a relationship that started online. For that matter, I haven't seen anyone in the media make that comment -- this thread is the first time I've seen it said.

    For example, from their local paper the Times-Dispatch:
    Fawley met Behl in February through his roommate at the time, a fellow VCU student who was a friend of Behl's from Vienna. When they met again in April, Behl posed for Fawley in fully clothed pictures taken on Belle Isle.

    When Behl came to Richmond to begin school at VCU in late August, she regularly parked her 1997 Ford Escort in front of Fawley's home on Hancock Street, just north of West Broad Street near VCU's Seigel Center.

    Her arrival in town had already been posted on her Web page on the dating site MySpace.com: "I'm looking forward to meeting people that are in Richmond," she wrote.
    http://www.timesdispatch.com/servlet...=1031785296194

    According to that they'd already become acquainted before she moved to Richmond, and before she made that statement on her MySpace page; and were introduced through a mutual friend, not through the web.

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    I swear it said they meet on myspace I might of read it wrong let me see what links I can look up. I know Fawley did take down his MySpace (not sure when but it was not to long ago I believe). Let me see if I can pull up any links.

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    I am feeling sorry for the poor girl,
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    Damn that sucks, but yeah, you definately should meet in a public place if you're going to meet at all, not just public, but pretty crowded, and always go into public/crowded stores ect. until you're truly convinced of that persons personality.

    That truly sucks for the girl's family though, can't say it was a dumb mistake, can't say it was purely bad luck, it must be a mix of both.

    edit: dang, her friends are having a postfest.
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    Originally posted by Lord
    Damn that sucks, but yeah, you definately should meet in a public place if you're going to meet at all, not just public, but pretty crowded, and always go into public/crowded stores ect. until you're truly convinced of that persons personality.

    That truly sucks for the girl's family though, can't say it was a dumb mistake, can't say it was purely bad luck, it must be a mix of both.

    edit: dang, her friends are having a postfest.
    Better yet, bring a friend along, guy or girl. Though I've always thought the internet was a great way to meet new people and such, but there are incidents like this hppening every now and then and it's very tragic to see and hear about them
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    Originally posted by Hoobastank68
    Better yet, bring a friend along, guy or girl. Though I've always thought the internet was a great way to meet new people and such, but there are incidents like this hppening
    Not bad advice, but not relevant to this situation. Taylor Behl and Ben Fawley were introduced by a mutual friend, Mike Cino. He was Fawley's roommate, so presumably he was present when they met -- "bring a friend along" is exactly what happened.

    Behl and Fawley met in April, and began an intimate relationship. In one of her blogs, she asks people to write about their memories of her. Fawley replies with "a cute girl climbed into my bunk..." She follows that with "Well, I was curious."

    She was killed five months after they met; during that time both of them made several posts recounting time they'd spent together.

    Whatever happened (and police are now calling Fawley a suspect), this is a tragic story. But it's not a "meeting people online is scary" story.

    If you want to put a label on it, maybe call this a "17-year old women should be careful about getting into relationships with 38-year old men who have a history of violence and a diagnosed bipolar disorder" story.

    Sure, scary online meeting stories exist... but this is a story of two people who met in person through a mutual friend, but happen also to have been active online.


    What is interesting about it to me is this: until recently in a case like this police and other investigators might get access to a victim's or suspect's diary or journal... but what's developing now is a situation where anyone has that access. Usually I pretty much ignore these lurid high profile stories, but that aspect of this one has certainly gotten my interest.
    Last edited by JayC; 10-10-2005 at 10:12 PM.

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    Very sad.........I hope this guy rots away right where he is now!!


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    Originally posted by effusionx1
    Looks like this guy was seriously into adult material.
    What guy isnt?

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