When I kiss (_!_), it's literally, not figuratively, and it's most pleasureable
, not demeaning. I have never played the role of the sycophant.
[serious face on]
Most people are more than 3 times as likely to criticize than to praise. On car purchases and other things, if we're happy, we'll tell 3 friends (on the average). If we're unhappy, we'll tell 10. Of course, that was before the Internet became mainstream. Now we can tell the world.
I like to add a bit of balance to those stats. Whether it's a waiter that has made a dining experince more enjoyable (and I let the manager know, not just the waiter), someone who has been very helpful and honest, or any effort that rises about the mediocrity that is so prevalent, I take the time to let people know that they are appreciated.
Just as one bad experience can put people in a bad mood, a kind word and thanks can put a smile on their face and a bounce in their walk. It might be so simple a thing as telling someone they look really good, even stunningly beautiful (if you mean it, of course), and to do it unselfishly. I've done that even with married women I've worked with (and I won't ever fish in anyone else's pond), and single ones I had no intention of dating.
In a world where may people are ready to rain on your parade, be rude and indifferent, I like to represent the opposition and be a ray of sunshine. It spreads rapidly.
[serious face off]
[Edited by Duster on 10-31-2000 at 08:17 AM]