right i just thought my server was crazy i only have my forums on the server and a few pop3 accounts for my elite members (around 20)
and all of a sudden qmail was taking all my load up and killing my machine with slow
i checked my log and dont laugh i had 1300000 mails in my queue
when i setup the qmail server from the toaster found here
http://www.shupp.org/toaster/ it never told me to make a rcpthosts file
well basicly i had an open relay going on

as you probably guessed.
i am not sure if im blocked by spam cop or anything now.
right i have put my domain in the rcpthosts file like this
mydomain.com
but when i log into my outlook account i can recieve mails but it wont send i get
repsone error 553 sorry that domain is not in my list of allowed rcpthosts
thanks very much in advance
Mick D