Well after what I feel was more than enough research I made the jump and finally picked a reseller to get an account with.
I went with equivity.com because
SSH access is available
cpanel/whm/fantastico -with autopilot option
enom account available for domain reselling
good pricing on SSL certs just in case
knowledge base and forum that seem to have decent info and activity. The forums are fairly new and aren't hopping but the responses look quick, accurate and polite.
Currently I have a regular hosting account with ecphosting.net and a free 1and1 account. I was tempted to go with ecp again but for the above reasons I'm making the switch.
I've submitted 2 tickets so far both of which were 'where is' 'how do I' and the responses were quick accurate, and polite.
Only been 12 hours or less but I'm loving the experience so far.
with equivity they give you a cpanel account with an extra x number of MBs depending on your plan. So basically I have 4GB of 'resellable' space that I can't login to.. and 250MB of my own space on top of that that, which I am also having problems with.