10-07-2003, 04:43 PM
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Woman Troubles
Well I have been with my girlfriend for over 11 months now - reaching one year on Nov 4th.
Everything has been great until lately, it just seems like she doesnt care. She doesnt call me back when she says she will, she gets mad at me quite easily, it generally feels like she doesnt want to be with me anymore.
Now I brought this up to her and my feelings but she says she still loves me and nothing is wrong and apologizes...
But then it just happens again -- I really don't know what to do, what she is doing drives me crazy, but I love her to much to even think of not being with her...
Any help would be awesome guys!
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10-07-2003, 05:01 PM
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Knowing your ages would help a lot.
My first reflex would be to tell you to ride it out. If you are both reasonably young a lot of changes will be occuring physiologically right now and females are on a different schedule than we are.
Trust what she says but continue to persue it.
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10-07-2003, 05:02 PM
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Both of us are around 18...
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10-07-2003, 05:06 PM
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Sounds pretty natural. Chances are you both recently graduated and are taking on new life challenges without the structure of school life. Changes in attitude and changes of habit are natural.
I can't speak for your case specifically but nothing you describe sounds too drastic or out of the ordinary. Make her happy, be persistant but not a nag. Things will work out.
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10-07-2003, 06:51 PM
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PCLink, sounds kind of familiar with my previous encounter with my old relationship. I was together with my now fiance for just under 2yrs. (this is taking place beginning of May of this yr) Well then things began to sound like yours; she began to get mad and snap at me quite quickly, always would get defensive and eventually yes it led to what you have stated in a "blowing me off" sense. I loved her then and I still love her now, this went on through May, through June and then I couldn't take anymore. Yeah I loved her uncontrollably but I just was losing hope, faith and trust. I came to find out that she was cheating on me.
Just give her space but keep your guard up and if you feel soemthing is going on, in my case 9/10 tiems it's true. Tell her you need to talk to her and I mean really have a good thorough conversation to find out what's going on with her life and her point of views on such matters. Tell her what and how you feel about the current situation and go from there.
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10-07-2003, 06:53 PM
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What, me worry?
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Nothing is wrong...she says the same thing to the other guy 
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10-07-2003, 06:55 PM
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timechange, lol, be nice you big meanie. 
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10-07-2003, 06:56 PM
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I got another friend who had the same experience as t c. His ex was blowing cold for a while and he got upset. In the end they broke up. But after they did, my friend found out that his ex has been cheating on him behind his back while they are together. I am not saying that that's the case, but usually there is something that's happening and she's just not telling you.
On the other hand, personally, my gf does have her ups and downs. So it may just be one of those swings now and then. Just make sure that you are around for her when she's down (if she is), else she will sink even lower and jeopardize the relation possibly.
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10-07-2003, 06:57 PM
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Dont keep it to yourself, find a way to express how u feel towards her to get a posetive reaction. Dont just let it be cos if summin 'does' (god forbid) happen then ull be asking urself 'if only i spoke to her sooner' .......
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10-07-2003, 07:03 PM
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Girls are unpredictable.
Is she outgoing, or do you potentially see her having feelings for someone else??
Or is she just an open minded person that doesnt show affection??
9 out of 10 times, shes just being a girl
but theres always a chance that her feelings have changed.. its a part of life.. some people show it in different ways.
Hang in there, this is only the beginning.
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10-07-2003, 07:06 PM
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Well she is an awesome person this just isnt like her, she just says nothing is wrong either and it seems that if I continue to want to talk about it she just gets upset and snaps at me...
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10-07-2003, 07:07 PM
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Is it that...u know...'time' ?
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10-07-2003, 07:10 PM
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One thing to not do is get uppity yourself. If she is blowing hot and cold then something is up. It could be a number of things but you have to just sit down and get it out of her. You are still young so you have plenty of time to make the right decisions. Prehaps just a small cooling off period.
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10-07-2003, 07:10 PM
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I don't think so, based on his description.
Well, if you trust her, you should just trust what she says and leave it. Else it's not going to do you or her any good. And the more you try to act possessive or act more out of the norm, the more pressured she would be, and obviously that's not going to help.
Back off, give her space, take things as per normal, and see what happens after a while. .
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10-07-2003, 07:11 PM
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Take a look at my custom title and then ask yourself:
Do I really want relationship advice from this guy?
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