I pay for web space and don't know alot about hosting sites. I want a standard 404 message and i think i know how to do it, when i try and upload the .htaccess file through FTP it says that it is a forbidden file name. When i upload the basic txt file and then try and rename it in CuteFTP or Dreamweavers upload facility both programs just freeze on me and then time out.

Is it my host? am i doing anything wrong?

Suggestions would be appreciated.