am not sure how to set it up
on filezilla its say
Connection established, waiting for welcome message...
then nothing happens do i have to wirte a message?

No, there is no message for you are to write at this point. Filezilla is simply waiting for a response from the remote server/ftp, and may just time-out with an connection error. This does not necessarily mean that your local settings (host/user/pass) for the connection are incorrect. Ensure that the FTP service is running on the server which your trying to connect.

how do you mean ftp is running how do i do that thanks

Let's take a look into your server, try with command:

ps -aux | grep

And see which of program are running. If you can not see any program of FTP server running. Try to find which program of FTP server has been installed under your server by command:

rpm -qa ftp

Then you can run: service name_ftp start

Usually you can use default command look like /etc/init.d/service_name start

root@server:# ps ax | grep ftpd
9982 ? Ss 0:09 proftpd: (accepting connections)

If the FTP service is running, it will display this or something similar. If the service is stopped you will see nothing. This can be also be checked by going to (http://server.ip.address/admin) and logging into the admin panel.