Ok everyone,

I'm getting married on Saturday, February 17th to my beautiful fiancee whom I've been with for almost 5 years.

I haven't felt one bit of anxiety, nervousness, etc... yet!! I have spoken to my friends and they keep telling me that since I haven't felt this jitters that it will hit me on THE DAY and that I should be prepared.

My question is this:

Does everyone go through the jitters? Or are there a lucky few of us who just don't go through it? I need to know in order to prepare myself for Saturday :D

Congrats Tabernack!

I didn`t have any anxiety or nervousness at all on my big day! I was actually excited, it felt like a big show! My best man was probably the most nervous one there.

tabernack,

Congratulations :D

Congrats tabernack. :beer:


Are there any un-married men left? Women are taking us down one by one :( :( BY WARE!!

Congratulations! If you're feeling nervous, just remember when you're standing up there taking your vows to always have your knees bent slightly--otherwise you'll faint.

Congrats tabernack.

Originally posted by IntelligentHosting.com
Congratulations! If you're feeling nervous, just remember when you're standing up there taking your vows to always have your knees bent slightly--otherwise you'll faint.

Thanks for the tip!! I'll make sure to keep em bent :)

Glad to hear that not everyone has to go through the jitters. I hate the thought of being a nervous reck on my wedding day. Hey! If chicken can do it, so can I :D

I'm yet to be married, but it's a geographical thing more than anything - and shall be resolved. For Michele and I we take it as a forgone conclusion so neither of us looks at it as a nervous time when the day finally arrives (romantic huh? *lol*).

On the other hand, the day we found out we were going to be parents! Different kettle of fish there... When it's just the two of you, you can make decisions together that only affects each other. Soon as the day arrives where your decisions affect the life of someone else, who doesn't have a voice of their own yet, then everything takes on a new perspective.

Of course it makes life a lot more fulfilling too. (both marriage and children) There's nothing better than looking at my fiance and daughter and thinking, "That's my family there".

Sorry to expand things out that far for you - I'm sure you'll be working on the marriage thing first for a while *lol*, but done right - sharing your life with someone is the best. Just remember to listen and consider your partner's point of view, and don't keep things to yourself. Be honest and try not to argue - a rational discussion always gets better results.

Hmm.. all I can think of other than Congrats :)

Greg Moore

Excellent advice akashik! Children won't be coming into the equation for about 2 years, but who knows :D

hehe, well we didn't *plan* on having our daughter for a while yet either :) She, on the other hand had different ideas.

Greg Moore

They always have other ideas... run tab, while you still can! Just kidding... I think you'll be surprised at the things that don't change and the things that do. Checks coming in the mail ain't too bad either :)

I thought I was as cool as a cucumber on my wedding day, until we drove halfway to the church and my best man asked me for the wedding ring and I realized I forgot it! I had left it on my kitchen table!

We had time to go back for the ring (thank God!), but that's when I started getting really nervous.

Still, I lived through it. Everything went well and it's been 12 happy years so far and two lovely kids.

Best of luck to you for a happy and healthy life together!

Sean

OK,Chicken got married. Now tabernack gets married.

Who is Next?

Just gotta keep a cool head. I haven't felt any nervousness yet, but I am certainly NOT ruling it out.

Thanks for all the best wishes guys!! It's greatly appreciated. :)

:beer:

I'm getting married this July, and so far so good in the nerves department. However, I did have a spazz when I finally ordered the invitations. If you have made it this far throughout the planning, you are set to go! :) I don't anticipate anything but "let me get to the honeymoon already!" ;)

Take care and have a most WONDERFUL wedding day!!! I can't wait till mine gets here!

Jenn.

I don't know whether to congratulate you or kick you in the back side! :)

When and where is the stag party?
Ste. Catherine Street maybe?

Originally posted by Racin' Rob
I don't know whether to congratulate you or kick you in the back side! :)

When and where is the stag party?
Ste. Catherine Street maybe?


Stag is already over. It was in Toronto with 4 of my good friends. Sorry you all missed it.

If you ever want to come to Montreal, let me know!! I could always use a good night on the town. :D

Will do!

It's been many moons since I've been up there. It will be 15 years this summer.

Give the bride a kiss for all your friends at WHT!

My heartfelt congratulations go out to you, tabernack. I believe finding one's mate and companion is perhaps the greatest joy in life.

Not everyone gets the jitters, and I think sometimes they come not from the marriage, but from the ceremony, particularly with large weddings. All that pomp can cause some people to get nervous.

Relax. After all, it's your (and your bride to be's) day, not theirs).

Jitters can be funny, though. Years ago, I was best man for my friend Tony. When the preacher got to the vows and asked him, "Wilt thou, Anthony" He immediately responded, "I WILL!" The preacher responded, "patience, my son."

It was hilarious. I controlled my laughing as best I could, though it was easy to see my shoulders heaving with laughter.

It seems to me the jitters should come from the dating part, or even the proposing, not the getting married part. After all, the immediate outcome is known in getting married. That may not be so in the other cases.

Congratulations again.

For whatever reason, when you are up there, it is nerve racking to repeat what the preacher is saying. it isn't difficult, just odd. Maybe it is because you are 1/2 thinking at the same time, "What the **** am I doing???" :)

Thanks for the great advice Duster! And you're right, it does feel great :)

Chicken, I'm actually making up my own vows. Pretty cool eh?? :D But I do have a backup plan with the Minister in case I freeze and start mumbling "duh, ah....mmmmm...duh...." :D

Congrats Tabs. I might take you up on your offer should I decide to do my round-the-world trip over the next two years or so :D

Greg and others : there was a competition run by a local station http://www.fox.com.au to get two cyber-lovers together. Just finished yesterday and boy, am I sick of it!

And no, I certainly won't be marrying for a while. :D

I like the idea of making your own vows. It's what I would do.

While I respect most traditions, I'm not a very traditional guy. I've long thought an interesting way to get married (for me, anyway) would be to invite friends and family to a casual party. In the course of the party, announce the forthcoming marriage. Then, have a notary public or minister start the ceremony, wherein both parties would state their own vows.

There would be no pomp and circumstance, no bridesmaid gowns and tuxedo rentals, no hooplah in general. The wedding party would be spared the expense of traditional weddings. There would also be no guests having to deal with wedding presents and feeling guilty if they didn't bring one.

Instead, friends and family would be gathered together to share in two joyous occasions, a party and a marriage.

Afterwards, friends and family could send presents if they chose, without feeling it an obligation.

Those who wished to, could keep the traditional parts, like the music, the cutting of the cake, throwing of the bridal bouquet, etc, though I think I would dispense with most of it.

Practically speaking, and especially for young couples, it would make more sense to give practical gifts, including money, instead of spending a small fortune on the ceremony. After all, money problems are one of the top two reasons couples fight and are a big factor in the divorce rate. Appropriating wedding expenses to prevent that is a better way to show true concern for the well being of the couple than a brief expensive ceremony.

BINGO Duster!!! I swear you copied word for word what I told my fiance (as well as all my friends) would be the ideal wedding for me. I don't believe in the big production. It certainly isn't for me. It really does become a issue of politics with the family (mom's and dad's and to some extent the bride).

It really does bother me to put my friends through such an ordeal (not to mention they have to drive 5 hours to get there). But, it is comforting to know that I went through the same ordeal for their wedding.

This especially hits home for me since we are paying for the wedding completely ourselves.

Married Tabernack. Way to go. Best Wishes.

I heard sex is worse after marriage, and i believe no sex before, i guess it will be the best.

Best wishes

tick tock, tick tock, tick tock, tick tock!!! :D

I'm all by myself since my fiancee left this morning for Toronto. I won't be going up till Friday. My best friend (and best man) has decided to come up to Montreal (from Ottawa) for one more night out on the town!!!!!! :D

This makes me very happy!! Nothing like a night out with your best friend a couple of days before you're married!!!

Thanks everyone for your posts. I really do appreciate it. I feel like this board is home to me and I hope it keeps going strong!!!

Ok, since I consider you all my family I've decided to post a picture of myself:

http://webfors.com/me3.jpg

I know, I know what you're thinking!!! That guy has it all!! Good looks, beautiful eyes, and look at that hair!! Please don't hate me because I'm beautiful. It's hard enough trying to get people to appreciate me for who I TRULY am when I meet them in person.

The next thing you must be thinking is how lucky my fiancee is. Well, here is a picture of her:

http://webfors.com/pretty.jpg

God I love that curly red hair, freckles, and blue eyes, and then add how beautiful she is on the inside and it boggles my mind how I was lucky enough to have her in my life!! :D

[Edited by tabernack on 02-14-2001 at 09:54 PM]

Originally posted by tabernack
Ok, since I consider you all my family I've decided to post a picture of myself:

http://webfors.com/me3.jpg

I do believe I've seen that somewhere around, which means you've been the butt of millions of ppl's jokes :D

Best wishes!

Dedicated Servers on the house? :D

Originally posted by tabernack
Children won't be coming into the equation for about 2 years, but who knows
Spoken like a true computer geek. :D

Originally posted by Duster
There would be no pomp and circumstance, no bridesmaid gowns and tuxedo rentals, no hooplah in general. The wedding party would be spared the expense of traditional weddings. There would also be no guests having to deal with wedding presents and feeling guilty if they didn't bring one.

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Those who wished to, could keep the traditional parts, like the music, the cutting of the cake, throwing of the bridal bouquet, etc, though I think I would dispense with most of it.
Duster: That's a great idea. Speaking from experience: good luck finding a female who's going to agree to that. :)

Congrats Tabernack!

So tommorow is your BIG DAY.... Not nervous yet? Gee... (:confused: scratch my head :confused: ).... you are no human! :)
BTW: agreed, you have a lovely fiancee... congratz....

yes, tick...tock...tick...tock... :D

cheers,
:beer:

A funny thing Tab- my buddy and I recently joked (before my wedding) that maybe he and I should duck out to Canada, 'while we still could' to get away from the whole tihng... I suppose that wouldn't work for you, heh. :)

Congratulations Tabernack.
I was a little nervous but what I remember most is that the ceremony was sort of a blur. Everything seemed to happen really fast.

You will do fine.

Gary

You do have it all, cute wife, and you sure are one hot guy, not that i am that way or anything. You remind me of my dog. His name was Wilabi, he got hit in the head by a car, and looked just like that.

moment of silence please...










Congrats again...

Congrats! I wish you and your fiancee the best on such a special day. :)


I had a small wedding and I was a nervous wreck because everything went wrong at the last minute. The only thing that got me through was thinking about my honeymoon. :)

"I'm getting married in the morning,
wedding bells are going to chime,
da daa da dah dah (forgot the words)
da daa da dah dah (forgot the words),
Just get me to the church on time!"

Congratulations, t. May you not see this today or tonight. ;)

Well, I'm a married man! :D

I didn't get nervous like I expected and everything went perfect. The reception was great. I have to honestly say that it was the best time of my life.

We went to the Laurentians here in Quebec for our honeymoon and had a blast - skiing, sledding, snowmobiling, and of course the honeymoon suite at the lodge we stayed at was beautiful. Had a huge fireplace, jacuzzi, etc..etc...

Thanks for all the best wishes everyone! :)

I'm putting together a wedding website once I have all the pictures developed. I'll put the link here so you can all see how it went.

Congrats :)

So who is next on the "getting married" list? :confused: :D

I can't wait to see your wedding web site! Congratulations again on the wedding! I can't wait for mine this July.

We are considering Quebec for our honeymoon... do you mind my asking exactly where you stayed? I take it, it was a good spot. :) Thanks!

We stayed at http://www.hotelalpine.com

It was a great place and the owner was extremely friendly. There is sooo much to do up there, especially in the winter.

Like keeping warm? ;)

Originally posted by tabernack
I'm putting together a wedding website once I have all the pictures developed. I'll put the link here so you can all see how it went.


Welcome back to reality :D :D Hope you are not still dreaming abour your honeymoon vacation :D

Yess.... let us see your wedding website... It would be pretty cool! :agree:

So... was there any time during your honeymoon that you were wory about your servers? ;)

Cheers for you (and whoever is getting married next!),
:beer:

tabernack,

Congrats on the big day. :) I find it a little disturbing you logged on between your wedding and the honeymoon though *lol* A sign of a true net.geek Shall look forward to the wedding pics myself.

BC,

An update on that foxFM thing. The last thing I heard was he came out here and immigration was all over him for not declaring being a criminal :) Ahh love on the net...

Greg Moore

Originally posted by dektong
So... was there any time during your honeymoon that you were wory about your servers? ;)

YES!!! My cell phone coverage died off about 3 minutes before I got to the inn. The emergency pager was working, just no phone. It was a relatively problem free week, and I thank my lucky stars for that. :)

Congrats!!!

And on another note, I don't intend to ever get married, I'm just too crazy for that.....

Originally posted by JTY
Congrats!!!

And on another note, I don't intend to ever get married, I'm just too crazy for that.....

Queen Elizabeth I was married to England. What are you "married" to? your crazyness? :D :D As for me... I want to get married, possibly this summer, this december, next summer, or next december.... :D :D

cheers,
:beer: