I've liked this girl for 5 months now and we went out for about 4 months. Now we are broken up but she still tells me that she loves me...well I love her too but she doesnt want to go out. I dont know what to think or do anymore.

Can you ppl tell what I should do or not do.

Rent a server and forget about her. :D

:-)

I came into the office today, refreshed the WHT Lounge page, and found this message. I just thought it was funny that a web hosting community can be of so much help in so many areas!

I would say be her friend, and give it some time. Hopefully that still works in these times :)

Hehe but NO. Good idea though...lol.. but serious what should I do?

Originally posted by allera
Rent a server and forget about her. :D Haha, good one.

You guys need to sit down and talk this one out...no not about the relationship - but about what OS you want on your server.

Originally posted by allera
Rent a server and forget about her. :D

:lol::lol:

How old are you? How old is she? That wil make a dif on my answer for you.

I've been down this road.. If you are not that emotional and can still get some go for it.. Thats all alot of young people want these days and just don't really want to bein a relationship now.. If you are really mentally hooked on her then i suggest you cut it off.. I was in that position and let me emotions get in the way and ended up getting hurt after it was all over after 3 years or so instead of getting what I could and being happy with that... Good luck

Give it time, maybe be away from her for a little while and then decide how you both feel.

If she doesnt go out means her heart is not with you.

1 month before my gf broke off with me I noticed this symptom.
I was smart ebough to start seeing another girl which I liked long ago but wasnt too into her when I was with my gf.

When one month later she said she wanna break up, I was smiling, nt crying. I was well prepared. I have a backup. The next day I ask the other girl if she can be my gf,and she said yes.

Moral of story, get a backup first !!! or you will be crying if she said something terrible to you!!!

Pardon my perverted sense of humor...I'm under a little bit of stress right now :D, but as I was reading through this post, I was reminded of a line from the John Cusack movie "Say Anything":


"I got a question. If you guys know so much about women, how come you're here at like the Gas 'n' Sip on a Saturday night completely alone drinking beers with no women anywhere?"

s/Gas 'n' Sip/Web Hosting Talk/g

:D :D :D

hahah uuallan....

Marko_P,

This is one of those facts of life with women, I think all men go though this once in their life... I had this happen 2 years ago, I still love the girl to this day, we dated again about a year ago for about 2 weeks, my average relationship lenght... We are best friends, and well screw buddies..

You just gotta go on with life :D

Tell her you faked every one of your orgasms.

Well we have gone out 2 times and broken up 2 times. Yesterday she kept saying that she loves me all the ****ing time. 2 days before yesterday I asked her if she wanted to get back together and she said not now. I also told her how I felt about her and she didn't say anything so i got pissed. I just wanted to know if she likes me or not so I can just forget and move on.

Originally posted by hostpath.com
Tell her you faked every one of your orgasms.

You know, I'd really like to hear how a guy can pull that off :D

Originally posted by uuallan
"I got a question. If you guys know so much about women, how come you're here at like the Gas 'n' Sip on a Saturday night completely alone drinking beers with no women anywhere?"

s/Gas 'n' Sip/Web Hosting Talk/g

:D :D :D

s/Saturday night/Wednesday afternoon/g

Personally, on Saturday night I'll be out with Katie. I'm hoping I won't be too tired out then -- from being out Friday night, and spending Saturday afternoon with Deirdre.

Anyway, my advice: it's been four months? Don't worry about it. If she's not just trying to make you feel better by saying she loves you, she still will next week or next month. Do you run into her casually from time to time? Just say hi, be friendly, don't get all strange and freaked out around her... and if it's meant to work out, it will.

If you'd been married to her for ten years it'd take a different approach, but a four month relationship? It's still young, even if ends up lasting a lifetime there will have been these kinds of glitches from time to time.

Originally posted by allera
Rent a server and forget about her. :D

That's really sad man .. .

:)

Why did you break up?

Originally posted by The Prohacker


You know, I'd really like to hear how a guy can pull that off :D

Sorry I sneezed :D

Originally posted by Lonny


That's really sad man .. .

:)


Hell renting the server would prolly be cheaper than dating the chick :D

I wish I would at least have the opportunity to have a problem with a girl. :(

Originally posted by Lonny


That's really sad man .. .

:)

Well she said that she didn't want a bf...but like 3 days after she asked me if we can get back to gether....the the second time we broke up...well I don't know the reason for that...

Damn fickle females!

Find an older woman! Much less fickle

Originally posted by Marko_P
I also told her how I felt about her and she didn't say anything so i got pissed. I just wanted to know if she likes me or not so I can just forget and move on.

Move on.

There is no point in courting someone that will not be honest with you and communicate with you.

You can be sure that when she does speak up, it will be only to further *her* aims, not neccessarily yours or the honest aims of a good relationship.

I suspect if you attempt to move away, she will try to pull you back.

Move on. Find someone that you can trust they will be open and honest with you, and make sure you act the same in return.

move on!

Ya, a guy fake...LOL thats funny. But I don't know my now wife and I kinda had the same thing, but I just stayed friends with her when we werent together and we eneded up gettign married 3 years later.

Have sex with her. If you cannot convince her to come over or so then tell he straight you want to have sex with her.... no more BS !!! ;)

Try to convince her to start posting on WHT.

I'm also still having trouble with a girl. We've been married for 24 years now, and I'm more confused than ever. Don't they come with user's manuals, or on-line help?

How about 24/7 emergency phone support? ;)

Originally posted by Abu Mami
Don't they come with user's manuals, or on-line help?

Ask her mother, perhaps she forgot to gave you complete user manual.

Originally posted by jstonehouse
How about 24/7 emergency phone support? ;)


Can we get a managed solution?????

Two books I recently finished reading that provide valuable insight to the minds of women ... though it may warp you forever! The Liars Club and Cherry by Mary Karr

Originally posted by The Prohacker

Can we get a managed solution?????

:stickout

Originally posted by allera
Rent a server and forget about her. :D Awesome solution.

I liked the post about "get a backup first." That sounds very server-like as well. :D

I assume from the description and the tone that the poster is in his teens. Ahhh, what a sweet time. *reminisces* So confusing, so vibrant, so full of life.

She very well may mean what she says. She may love you. She may feel strongly for you and believe it is love. This does not mean she wants to be together. Being in a relationship with a boy, and being in love with him, are two separate issues. The reasons don't really matter, girls don't reason through things in the way you are used to.

I was crazy-mad-in-love with my first boyfriend but I got scared and broke up with him, not because he had an iota wrong with him, but because I was scared of what I was feeling inside. He was totally bewildered and beside himself, he drove 8 hours to visit me and plead me to take him back... I should have, but the fear I felt was just as strong as my emotions for him. It was terrifying and I had to get outta there. :(

I will always love him. He turned out to be a total drunk uneducated washed-up loser, but those teen relationships... a part of my heart will always be with him, and the other boy I dated.

That was 14 years ago. :) So just because you love each other doesn't mean you have to be together, or that there is any particular answer to your question.

What do you do? Yes, rent a server. Build on yourself. Don't let your life stop for a person; we start out on this Earth alone, and we end up alone... the big passages, we do by ourselves. Everyone in between is part of the trip. But in the end, it's just you, so live your life for you.

As for me, I still haven't hooked up with Mr. Right, but I think I am getting close. And I do have a server. :) The best of all worlds!!!!!!


:D Bailey

Be her best friend. Sometimes being her best friend can get you closer than being her boyfriend :) There will be the day when she needs a best friend, just be patient ;)

Originally posted by Kiwi
Be her best friend. Sometimes being her best friend can get you closer than being her boyfriend :) There will be the day when she needs a best friend, just be patient ;)

This is true... Also best friends usually equal f*ck buddies also :D

Originally posted by Roy@ENHOST
If she doesnt go out means her heart is not with you.

1 month before my gf broke off with me I noticed this symptom.
I was smart ebough to start seeing another girl which I liked long ago but wasnt too into her when I was with my gf.

When one month later she said she wanna break up, I was smiling, nt crying. I was well prepared. I have a backup. The next day I ask the other girl if she can be my gf,and she said yes.

Moral of story, get a backup first !!! or you will be crying if she said something terrible to you!!! That's why you're a good host, you keep good backup.

Move on with life. There are just so many other things that you can be doing instead, you know... ;)

From a girl's POV, I feel that if she doesn't want to respond to your voicing of your feelings, then she herself is confused, and wants some time away by herself to think things through. Getting frustrated, trying to hurry her along with the answer will either lead you nowhere or result in her giving an answer that you will much rather not hear.

My 2-cents :)

As some of the guys said in the previous posts: get a Backup !

This time look for a more 'Secure Connection' not one that is likely to give you downtimes( no pun intended ).

Learn from the servers. Get multiple backbones! And good ones I mean. Increase your redundancy! If one is down there are few more to keep you going. And do not let your gf go out clubbingwith her friends too often, she will meet guys which means trouble for you. Once she finds a good host she will abandon the previous host.

Originally posted by Marko_P
Can you ppl tell what I should do or not do. [/B]

Yes, this is a no-brainer. First, you need to realize that women are all basically insane, and that the insanity is contagious. The more you try to figure them out, particularly the confused ones, the crazier it will make you.

Got it? Good. Now go out and have a good time, and forget about this one - there are a million more out there where she came from. :cool:

-Bob

Originally posted by Roy@ENHOST
As some of the guys said in the previous posts: get a Backup !

This time look for a more 'Secure Connection' not one that is likely to give you downtimes( no pun intended ).

Learn from the servers. Get multiple backbones! And good ones I mean. Increase your redundancy! If one is down there are few more to keep you going. And do not let your gf go out clubbingwith her friends too often, she will meet guys which means trouble for you. Once she finds a good host she will abandon the previous host.


Cluster management :D

Yes, this is a no-brainer. First, you need to realize that women are all basically insane, and that the insanity is contagious. The more you try to figure them out, particularly the confused ones, the crazier it will make you.

...I resent that :D

But then again, most people who know me and my buddies figured that we are insane, if not, stark raving loonies :stickout

Originally posted by Roy@ENHOST
Once she finds a good host she will abandon the previous host.

Oh My!! :o And you know what? there are very cheap hosts available these days :stickout

Just check out the advertising forum ;)

Are our answers getting off topic or what? Someone give this guy a solution, please :stickout

Love sucks, believe me. I'll be happy to stay single for a long, long time...

Shes playing you man.........................
Time to spray some Issey Miyake au de toilette and play hard to get.

Women like hard to get guys.

Then again some don't Cephren....they just get annoyed and walk. Funny how life is huh

*nods

"Hard to get" pisses me off, personally.

I don't think there is a single true answer besides, "take a deep breath." I don't know that there's anything to "do" about her or the relationship... the only thing to "do" is what he is gonna do with his life.

We all get tangled up in at least one of these in our lives... ya just have to let it play out. Sometimes it plays out under lots of attention from the affected parties; sometimes it plays out when one or the other takes a loooooong walk.

BTW I think you guys are nutso. ;)


:D Bailey

HAHA She asked me out yesterday...I told her that I might move to New York (I currently live in Virginia...DC Area). She got all scared and asked me out so I would saty here I guess. Wekk what do you think? Should I get back with her?

im not trying to be rude , but you sound a little whipped . Anyways , i wouldnt waste my time with a chick that cant make decisions and doesnt know what she really wants . Would scaring her into staying with you make you feel any better about the relationship ? Probably not , make her beg , then you know she loves you

Hehe...well I'll do that...

Originally posted by The Prohacker
Can we get a managed solution????? This is automatic. When you get married, she manages.

hehe thats true...

Originally posted by sodapopinski


Ask her mother, perhaps she forgot to gave you complete user manual.

LOL, who needs a manual? I sure don't :stickout

I would say...just be friends. If something *more* happens down the road then fine. I would make her prove to you-before going out again, if you do-that she won't just dump you that night or the next day.

Sorry if there are any ladies on the forum ;) but girls always tend to mess with yeah!!!!

hehe...thats true...thanks for the advice.:)

don't try to understand women.
If there are problems, leave. It's hard, but your will lose more time
and money if you stay.

The though of finding another woman, (time, patience and money included)
will make you stay with the same crappy relationship for a long time.
But never think it is a good relationship. You know that is a crappy one and
that you are trying to turn it into gold. It doesn't work.
Face the reality and be strong. Leave and move on.

It is like a hosting company that says: unlimited bandwith for $30/month.
Then it is slow at times, but fast sometimes. It is down and up, up and down.
the bottom line is: a service that is unpredictable and buggy, it is not
a services (also if you would like to convince yourself it is).
the low price makes you blind. In the case of the girl, the convience
of her knowing you and you knowing her, makes you don't want to do the work all over again.

It is very difficoult to understand yourself, imagine another person.

Sometimes we also forget that women lie, like crazy. It's in their nature.
So don't believe what she says, try to understand what the real truth is.
They are also not rational. We work with computers and they are rational.
Women are not.

Sometimes women say: i need some time off to think and have my own space.
It means: I'm dating someone else and I want to know if it is worthed to upgrade
with this new guy or not.
The list of stuff they say goes on and on. Just interpret what they really want they are really doing. If they suddently don't want to have sex, it means they are having sex with another dude or their girlfriends. it may be true, they still love you, but may be their girlfriends make her come like no one else. Girls have time, candles and stuff like that. Between them, they spend days having sex.

Love and relationships are a very wide topic, it can't be expressed in a post.

You need to be very specific on everything. If you brake it down,
you will understand where the problem is. But don't lie to yourself.

People talk about backups. We all know a backup is needed but
sometimes it is hard to find women. It is a problem to deal with the BS of ONE woman, imaging dealing with the craziness of two bith**es.
If you want to deal with two, you may want to quit your job, leave
your friends, sell your computer, open your checkbook and good luck.

Everyone wants a backup server, but it costs money to have one.
The bottom line:
If there are problems and she is not clear on what they are, leave.
It is hard, but be a real man for god sake.

btw, it seems there are a lot of love experts in this forum.