How do you find out if SSH was loaded with an RPM or built with source. I know rpm -q openssh or ssh but when i try to upgrade the RPM there are all these dependencies that are missing?

Well, if you are able to get a response from rpm -q ssh/openssh then it was built with the RPM file. You may be seeing the dependencies, because you are going from a much older version to the newest version -- which would require that other libraries be updated.

i just used the up2date feature to update the RPM and all the dependencies at once.

the RPM system is a pain.

up2date won't update SSH on RedHat prior to version 7. On those system, building SSH from source works every time. Get the src.rpm (not i386.rpm), build it by rpm --rebuild, then install the resulting i386.rpm files.