has anybody done it? I can't seem to get it working...

Could you explain more? What you did exactly and any error messages?

I edited /root/.vnc/xstartup to:

#!/bin/sh

gdm



to obviously start the gnome window manager but it doesn't work...it shows up as a ugly gray grid with an "X" as a mouse thing... Is that the correct startup command - gdm?

Ok, I got it!

All I did was change /root/.vnc/xstartup to:

#!/bin/sh

exec gnome-session