i need php/mysql (need at least 5 databases and i dont' want unlimited table responces either) and perl with the mysql dbi/dbd installed... for 20 a month at lleast a 100 megs of diskspace and 5+ gigs of bandwidth

Hi!
most of the server with cpanel would be able to offer this.
Many good hosting companies are offering this.

Have a great day :)

Regards
amar

i must be blind i searched for a month and i still dislike my company :( /me goes off and cries

Put up a request in the
Web Hosting Requests section. I'm sure many cool hosts can offer cool packages to you.