reading some of the posts here is making me feel like the word "webmaster" is synonymous with battered wife. This forum is like one big house of people with horror stories from our abusive husbands (ie: webhosts). we've all been through hell at one point. it's nice to have a spot where we can share experiences and hopefully avoid making the same mistakes.

I've been through abusive relationships with hispeed, *****, and communitech. i'm now in a healthy relationship with netherweb, and currently looking for a dedicated server with good bandwidth prices for our baby (my message board).

what's going on with your relationships, past and present?

In some ways, finding a web host is (scary), very much like a relationship. Your post has made me realize this.

Let me explain. All of us have dated people, and at the beginning (usually but no always), things are pretty good. Then some incident happens, and things fall apart. You move on to the next person eventually, after some rough times.

Chances are, this person was someone else's girlfriend at one time, but things didn't work out for them. That doesn't mean it won't work out for you.

The right host, the 'best' host, is the right host for *you*.

So Chicken, I suppose what you're saying is that the first question anyone asks a potential web host should be "Do you still beat your wife?" ;)

Originally posted by Justice
. . . . . what's going on with your relationships, past and present? Past?? Well I won't mention names; but they're past cuz they cheated on me. And called me names. And didn't listen to me. And didn't attend to my needs. And treated me like a child. And acted like I was a nuisance. And wasn't there when I needed them. And never bothered to call when they were going to be late. And . . . .

Present?? The opposite of Past. :)

Come to think of it; it is hard to tell the difference between a web hosting relationship and a physical one :rolleyes:

I find it funny how you compare the bad host storys to "abusive relationships":stickout

Originally posted by cperciva
So Chicken, I suppose what you're saying is that the first question anyone asks a potential web host should be "Do you still beat your wife?" ;)

I think you should just be friends first :D

Talk to some other people that know her, make sure she isn't a psychopath and that she didn't kill her last 10 boyfriends, etc., heh. Ease into the relationship with an open mind, no matter what minor bad things you've heard, and don't ignore the warning signs (that 'little voice'), if things aren't working out.

majority of web hosts (who are professional and are really web hosts and not resellers) will treat you always in professional manner if you are not asking for something extra ordinary or out of TOS.

Yeah, there are some exceptional cases like ***** (people say i haven't tried them) and bla bla. but i have seen many customers call a web host bad, ugly, or something like that when they see the host is not coping up to there expectations.

Great. I'm going to have to go into counseling now.
The last webhost I had wouldn't take no for an answer. I said I had a headache, but they had their way with me anyway. I feel so violated.:bawling:

another thing I noticed is... a host will say anything to get you involved with them, but once they know they have you, their behavior often changes. They take you for granted, and don't treat you as kindly. You have to do the same thing to maintain a good relationship that you did to start it.